After attending the SSD I’m 2019 I had a lot of the concepts but now I’m learning the framework for SoulCare. As these concepts soak in and I practice SoulCare in pastoral work, the increasing feeling is confidence and hope. I’m moving out of problem solving, out of fretting about my performance, and out of providing information. What’s enlivened in me is hope.
Hopefully, there’ll be less of “me, myself and I” in any of the soul conversations that I may engage with in the future. I hope I’ll be more aware of and alert to any fleshly passions inside me that make me believe that I can fix the other person using earthly tools and devices such as my skills and experience. Curisoty and vision will be important in my interaction with other people as well as helping them to reframe immediate concerns into an aspect of the bigger story of their soul.
While feeling inadequate to come alongside others, the first SoulCare class and this review have stirred a a hunger for God that had become complacent. I’m very thankful for this and look forward to digging deeper into these concepts. I imagine it will be difficult to purge the old way of what I called surface talk (exterior world) and aide someone to see their longing or heart for God.
I line the focusing on the journey. History has a purpose
I love Dr. Crabb’s vision. I feel totally inadequate to be able to reach into another’s interior life and move them from the presenting problems to something greater… God! But I am hopeful and trusting in the Holy Spirit to give me wisdom as i continue to learn from Dr. Crabb.
I definitely will be anxious and feeling uncertain if I can do it. It is not easy moving from knowledge of soul care concepts in the head to visualizing the unlimited possibilities for other’s souls. I need to over come the ‘habitual” way of trying to offer advice, be sympatric, or thinking of how to help others to improve their immediate situation. I have to trust that the honesty in reviewing my emotions at the moment, my own brokenness are enablers for me to see the real goodness in others and their potentials in Christ.
Inadequacy is defiantly the first thing that comes to mind. I do not feel knowledgeable enough to travel through someone’s soul and be affective. I embrace this feeling however as I rely on the Spirit who is adequate. Secondly and similar I feel I am not able yet to follow through with the end result. The end result being stirring up an appetite for God that is stronger then any other. The reason for this feeling being that up until these courses I believe that we were suppose to give the moralism and accountability approach. This is new waters for me and I am excited to partner with the Spirit in entering the battle for another soul.
I have been sharing with my wife a few of these concepts and am excited to explore them with friends. Most, if not all, of my relationships are surface communication and I realize how important “brokenness” is in the soul care process.
I feel wistful and contemplative… the longing to experience and practise these concepts is real. There is both desire to experience more of this from others, and also to offer others the gift of curious discovery of who they are versus analytical probing. I look forward to engaging in this course.
I feel like I have a better, healthier idea of how to talk to people with these concepts in mind. I feel I have a new awareness of how to begin and have an awareness of what not to do as well. There is relief from the idea that I have to “help solve their problem”. I feel more aware of what’s going on inside of me and my motivations. I feel like I have the beginning of a road map to recognizing that God has a vision for what the other person might become and that my role is that of an agent for the Spirit to use to accomplish His purposes in that other persons life and mine.
Excitement is was first comes to mind. To have an understanding that I am inadequate to change another’s soul and that I need supernatural power to be a SouCare provider takes the pressure off. I look forward to God using my brokenness to touch someone else’s soul. There are of course some anxieties about how this will all play out.
When I started this course I felt like there was some understanding and it would be a matter of completing the material. I knew the selfishness was there and have come to realize it more and hope in turning it over to God I can have soul trust in its place. I already do some soul care with mentoring and long for this to be in the Spirit and not in the flesh. Of the three people that are directly engaged in this, two want it and one only wants it at times. I am wondering how to move them into it more directly and looking forward to the next lectures.
I am feeling alive to now share with another friend this concept of soul care. This has given me excitement for diving deep into anothers story to hear their heart and uncover the story thats been living in them since they were born.
I realize all over again the depth of my selfishness, the reality of my own inadequacies, and my complete dependence on God for my entire life. There is a part of me that is pure- the desire to help people, for them to know God- and then the other part that receives affirmation when they say thank you, when I see their lives changed because of a suggestion I provided, and how that feeling is so attractive, yet a distraction from me finding God all sufficient. There’s another part of me that is really pretty good at listening to people’s emotional problems, but not at doing physical actions to help others, and seeing that inadequacy in me leaves me frustrated- and realize once again my fleshly limitations, and, I suppose, my own need for soul care. I realize in all this I need to stay present to myself and to others, and it is really like climbing up an iceberg with many facets and edges to account for and cling to. Good thing God knows everything and will lead us…
It is so easy to want to stay in shallow conversation. It is easy to give advice there; it is safe. It feels like if you go below the water line, you aren’t sure if you might drown! But with the help of the Holy Spirit, a person can invigorate and explore another’s interior world. The things that feel the most “new” to me are the self-need vs soul-thirst, and looking at our ruling passions. I’ve begun to “turn my chair” toward others, but I think I do still stay within the realm of the current problem, versus going beyond it and being an agent for the Spirit to work!
In reviewing the Ten Key Concepts of the Basic Model of SoulCare my heart and thirst for God was again stirred. My heart longs to be more like Jesus in the way that I relate to others, I long to know Him better and put His love on display to the world around me. I am continually challenged and convicted in asking myself the questions, “What am I motivated by at this moment?” “Are my ruling passions as I enter into conversation of the Spirit or Flesh?” My hearts desire is for Jesus to grow me and teach me more of His Divine nature that will release out of me a care, a love and a desire to represent Him well.
A journey with God and with the person-in-need, needn’t be a lonely journey. The lesson has rekindle once again, the joy of journeying with God and the other person through their situation. It’s a joy, a privilege and yet at the same time, trembling with fear – as God entrust the person to our care, and the person entrusts himself to us. With every ‘case,’ I grow, and the person grow.
The prayer Ephesians 3:16-20 was brought to mind as I type this response…
“I ask that out of the riches of His glory He may strengthen you with power through His Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. Then you, being rooted and grounded in love, will have power, together with all the saints, to comprehend the length and width and height and depth 19of the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.
Now to Him who is able to do so much more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us, 21to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.”
Feeling more inadequate than ever. Really need God to enable me!
I have been following these tenants for quite some time, due to reading Larry’s books, and personal experiences in ministry for years, and was blessed by attending one of Larry’s last SSD’s. The value of these ten concepts is invaluable in Soulcare. They are not only invaluable for the individual being administered Soulcare , but also for the person discerning what the spirit is telling both participants at the same time: dual growth, dual change, dual brokenness that brings both closer to God in relationship. The issues I have found in my life and spiritual walk is that I have found few church communities pursuing this journey, work places trying something similar for the wrong reasons with no reference to God or biblical basis, and not many who wish to adventure this path and feel the Holy Spirits call. I sometimes am frustrated by this, but then have recall, I have been blessed by a few who have ventured with me, though far and few between, but as the Lord wills. I have seen many miracles and changes with that few that I could not and would not change. Time of dancing with the Trinity i will not forget. The struggle is always real between first love and second loves and keeping these principles forefront in my mind as I journey helps mw open more space for the Holy Spirit to work.
Firstly ,take a step back and ask myself my motives for talking to this person, consider it a prevelege to be entering into this persons life, and then listen with curiosity. Stay humble at all times and remember my own “rottenness” Never be judgmental .Try to have a vision of this persons true potential when he or she becomes truly Christ centred
I find this model of soul care that Dr. Crabb presents, to be freeing. That when I am with a directee, I’m not trying to solve their problems, figure them out, psychoanalyze them, but rather to be with them, to discover them, below the false self and to explore their interior world. That this isn’t about coaching or counseling but rather a journeying- with- another, is exciting.
I also see how it would be very beneficial for those entering into soul care to have their own spiritual director, with whom they can ponder the stirrings, feelings, emotions they experience while offering spiritual direction to another.