A counselee who is not easily controlled nor destroyed portray a stability and strength that a person in need who trust to ‘drop his/her anchor.’ There is a ‘stirring’ within the person as he/she too, desire to be centred upon the ‘rest’ that the counselor has, in the midst of his.her storm.
A person will feel safe with you if they realize that they can neither control nor destroy you because they want to share their soul with someone who is rooted in someone higher than ourselves. They want to reveal themselves to someone who is not easily manipulated or destroyed by their mess. They long for the stability that Jesus Christ offers and when they realize that we are neither easily controlled nor destroyed they fee safe.
A person feels safe knowing that you will remain consistent and that they can depend on you not to reject them as they reveal who they really are. When they see that you are not in appropriately attracted to, distracted by or offended by any parts of them, they feel safe.