Have you experienced any “critical moments” as a leader? Explain. How did you respond?

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    • #95338350

      There have been cases when I put my ego aside and addressed critical moments rationally. Other times, not so much. I think my response has been determined by how closely I was listening to God.

    • #95335846

      Yes. Leadership is often a place of difficulty and loneliness. During a difficult time we learned to forgive and wait upon thenLord for direction. It was extremely difficult to not cave in but tho stand. God came through in a tremendous way. We bear scars but can see His faithfulness during a difficult time.

    • #95319312

      Actually I am in a “critical leadership moment” right now. Our pastor recently resigned and we needed to form a Pastor Search Team. An explosion has occurred in how the nominees were selected to be presented to the church for vote. The issue is not the quality of the nominees but how the nominees were selected. I lead a senior bible study group of about 20 seniors and I have been working with the Deacons to try to help minimize the damage. My leadership role is first leading my Bible Study Group in how they respond to this situation and how to use my influence in the church to support the Deacon as we strive for unity. My approach has been:
      1. Prayer – to seek God’s wisdom and guidance in this situation. To pray that I can clearly see my role and God’s role in this situation.
      2. Search Scripture – I feel God quickly guided me to James 3:13-18 Which address “Who is wise among you?” v17-18 But he wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere and a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.
      3. Seek Wise Counsel – I turned to Godly men how had guided me, encouraged me and even criticized me in he past for input
      4.Supported the Deacons – These are the ordained leaders of our church with a track record of wise, humble and sacrificial leadership
      5.Communicated the Truth and stood against confusion with a cool head and kind spirit. This has been very difficult.
      6. Be Still and Let God Work. This has been the most difficult. I love my church it is so hard to see it suffer. I want to take action now but God loves the more and only He change hearts and minds. This is still a work in progress and I remain the the five steps above.

    • #95318996

      I have been experiencing a couple recent critical moments. The most recent one involved me being obedient to God in establishing my ministry. Despite the lie of fear and the threat of rejection by another Christian community, I was obedient to the Lord. I believe God is going to bless my obedience in the days and years ahead

    • #95318341

      Yes with my daughter it’s an on going battle one day she forgive the time I spent away from her then if I do one thing she doesn’t like I get the past thrown at me I’ve asked for forgiveness time an time again ,God an her I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t internalize it anymore I just stay away till she comes around.

    • #95318329

      I have not had any critical moments. Critical life is more where I am. I have 4 adult children . One is a non-believer. one believes but is not active in a church. One says she hears God talking to her but does not attend church or read the Bible. The last one loves the Lord and her children love Sunday school. I have a lot of work to do to make up for responsibilities I did not honor. It is not too late.

    • #95316662

      As a Father and Youth Pastor I have faced critical moments as a leader. Having children wanting you to be influenced by the culture, along with youth parents wanting to mixed the world and church together to make it more inviting for their children to come to church. I took the Abijah stance of leadership for both my family and youth group standing on God’s side. It has caused a decrease in youth attendance and a strain at home with my children. However, I still believe if I continue to stand on God’s side, God will fight for me and I won’t fail as a leader, even though at times, I feel like I have.

    • #95315539
      Allan l.

      Critical moment decisions are humbling experiences. They demand much critical thinking and planning.
      It is difficult, at times, not to be bias or judgmental. Decisions have to be made consideration every other implication.
      Here’s a example; A man wants a vehicle from the company. He feels that using his private vehicle wears and tears it down.
      So he feels that the company should provide him a vehicle for our business. However, the company is under deficit and cutting expenditures to cover its defificit.
      Members sympathized for him, but I felt otherwise so I refused this request with explanation. We were trying to cut our deficit by cuts in company expenses and departments. We, also, had to present this to our community members and worker this financial report.
      My suggestions were accepted, although, it didn’t please everyone. In an council of seven members, we would not purchase the vehicle. This was my decison based on a collective interest for everyone. It was tough but it had to be done.

    • #95313950

      One of the greatest challenges of leadership I experienced is trying to merge different personalities together, and lead them in the same direction but in different ways. To be an effective leader I pray and ask God for help . Not just as a leader but as a servant leader.

    • #95313598

      Honestly, there are so many in my role as a teacher, it’s difficult to pinpoint an exact moment. I feel like every day when I stand up in front of dozens of teenagers, I’m in a critical moment. The most critical are the one-on-one moments with students who have made a dishonest choice about their work. These are the moments where I can build a relationship and show them more about living a life of integrity, but still hand down a consequence, rather than just doling out hard punishments with no life lesson.

    • #95312287

      Yes. It was the Sunday before Thanksgiving and our pastor was in quarantine because of covid-19. Some thought we should cancel the Wednesday night service because people would be needing to cook for Thanksgiving. I go to a very small church and we only have 2 deacons and one of them was out sick. The one deacon there and myself talked and thought we should be in church that Wednesday night to give thanks to God for all we had. One lady got pretty upset about us wanting to have church that Wednesday night but the decision was made to have church that night.

    • #95295809

      Yes, I have experienced critical moments as a leader. There was a time when I caught a student cheating. At first I was afraid to confront the student because I did not want him to deny it, get angry, and then get his parents involved. However, I had evidence of cheating and I knew that the student was making some poor choices. Putting my feelings of unease aside, I confronted the student and arranged a meeting with his parents. We were all able to discuss what happened and provide resources for the student to use instead of cheating. I could have ignored this “critical moment” and not confronted the student. In turn, I would not have had to deal to the repercussions that followed (angry parents, extra paperwork, extended hours to meetings, etc.). However, I embraced this critical situation and used it as a “teachable moment”.

    • #95295234

      All of the time! Whether at home, work, church, and in public.
      We do the best we can to honor God and allow the Spirit to lead us and provide us with discernment and how to lead.

    • #95294761

      As a leader I have experienced “critical moments”. For example, in my “mom” leadership role there was a time when my son wanted to only eat sweets. For ever every meal we refuse to eat what I made and only ask for candy and ice cream. As a child, I was very similar and often demanded things that were not in my best interest. After a few days of this struggle with getting my son to eat healthy food, I finally realized that I needed to empathize with him. I told him a story about my past. I was around the age he was and I was in a stage of “not wanting to brush my hair”. My mom would explain the concequences that if I did not brush my hair, then knots would form and it would hurt even more to brush it. After a few days of not brushing my hair, a giant know had formed and it was too painful to brush out. Thus, I had to get a haircut, which made me very mad. I told this story to my son and then explained that if he only ate “candy”, then his stomach would hurt and his body would not get the appropriate nutrients it needed to grow. I explained that his choice to only eat candy would have consequences. This was a critical moment becuase I was being transparent with my son and using a personal experience that he would be able to connect with. He now has the power to choose his own fate and realize that our choices have consequences. Similarly, God gives us the power to make choices everyday. We can choose to follow God and His rules or stray away and follow our own desires. Are our choices aligned with what God would want?

    • #95293990

      This is a really good question. Critical moments come in all types and levels of severity. They have shown up for me as teachers trying to usurp the group, leaving the group, or otherwise causing problems; parents who don’t understand the need for having their children at least working to obey the rules; and wondering if I am good enough for the job. Those moments have not always ended gracefully, but when I put God’s way on top, I can see Him get the victory. It isn’t always the popular thing to do, but God only leads in the right way. I’m thankful that I am still teachable!

    • #95293948

      I believe that I have encountered some form of critical moments when we started our Men’s Ministry. By following God I along with the other group leaders brought God to the the forefront of the group. Some of the group expected a Social Group only. We worked together to have what we call God Led Men Fed condition.

    • #95290006

      I was ordained as Co-Pastor of my church, and given authority to make some decisions , but ultimately they where set in place if the Senior Pastor agreed. The Pastor died within five months, thrusting me in the position of Pastor with very little hands on experience, and no knowledge of the business aspect. The first service after the former Pastor’s burial, the longtime Elder Associate Pastor announced to the congregation that his time was up, and he’s leaving. Members was crying and confused. The next Sunday I preached a message on being steadfast and unmovable always abounding in good works. The congregation regained their confidence in our church’s direction and future.

    • #95289506

      Yes, when some congregation slander me and leave the church. After years of together with them they leave the church it really hurt my self. But I think it is happened for a reasons.

    • #95287712

      Yes. Through these current world situations we are facing. As mentioned in the previous discussion question’s response, My adult children are concerned for the current events our world is now facing. My challenge to them is to remember Christ died for all; and praying for our brothers and sisters in Christ is necessary, and likewise, prayer for their enemies is too. This is a life lesson I am still learning. As a leader and guide I find myself motivated to learn along with my children and grandchildren as daily situations and world events arise, creating in our family an influencing team of believers. One of our family scripture verses of influence is 2 Timothy 1:12 “For this reason I also suffer these things: nevertheless I am not ashamed, for I know whom I have believed and am persuaded that He is able to keep what I have committed to Him until that Day.”

    • #95284538

      Every leader has critical moments; for example, during the pandemic, the leaders must decide the church’s response strategy to the lockdown and the problems associated with the lockdown. As for me, I believe we must respond proactively to the issues and come out with such solutions as online service instead of in-person service, online meetings and gatherings, and distribution of food packets for those that experience financial hardship during this period.

    • #95280853

      I believe in short projects in which I have lead, I did experience “critical moments.” I realize that a part of leadership is problem solving, decisiveness, adaptation, and a moving forward momentum. I also have realized in these critical moments having the right people or team in place. These critical moments may be necessary for larger, bigger, critical moments later in life.

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      Our Daily Bread
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