In what way(s) do you take your spouse for granted? How can you change this?

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      Bryan
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      A way I take my spouse for granted is not being present when they are speaking to me. I seem to be more focused on the details of tomorrow than I am on her. I can change this by using the technique of just stopping, sitting down, and having coffee together. To spend the time with her and focus on her and her concerns.

    • #95335811
      Craig
      Participant

      I often take for granted that my wife understands how I feel about a particular matter going on in my life. I often undervalue her ability to be strong in the face of adversity. I take for granted that she doesn’t need me to reaffirm her. I take for granted that she knows I love her. I often take for granted the smallest gestures that make a difference in the morning like how are you this morning? Did you sleep well? Is it anything we need to pray about immediately before starting the day? I take for granted that our friendship, intimacy and marriage will just grow with time and not intentionality of effort.

      I can change this by asking the Holy Spirit to help me to dwell with my wife in knowledge and expose those areas that I am blind to that make the difference in my wife’s life. In addition, I need to take the focus off of myself and place it more on my spouse’s needs. At my age, I still have some growing to do in the area of self- centeredness. More importantly, ask my wife how I am doing in the areas that matter to her the most and not be offended by her honesty even when it hurts.

    • #95335809
      Kashier
      Participant

      My husband is an awesome provider. He takes pride in making sure my needs are met and most of my desires. I find it easy to take for granted when you have never had that experience in your life. I can change this by acknowledging when he does make talk for small talk and about things that are important to me. I can be less critical when he is in his “Me Time “ mode. I can plan ahead. Time that is inclusive for us and not so much on the day to day things. I also can change my attitude when he does not make time.

    • #95322709
      Andrea
      Participant

      I take my husband for granted when it comes to doing the heavy jobs around the house. I could offer to help.

    • #95321756
      Annie
      Participant

      Take their spouse for granted when one does not consider how decision effect them and this can change by asking their opinions more. Let’s go for date meeting

    • #95321162
      Roy
      Participant

      I decide to plan to do things without telling her. Weekly schedule meeetings would help this and just checking with her before deciding to plan something that does not include her.
      I do not listen to her when she is talking to me. Stop what I am doing and focus on what she is saying.

    • #95319967
      Elaine
      Participant

      I think business is not a good reason for any couple to make decisions indepently instead of consulting each other. Efficiency is no replacement for partnership.

    • #95319952
      Courtney
      Participant

      I often take my husband’s sacrifices for granted and can better appreciate them by simply acknowledging them.

    • #95319343
      Stephanie Havenski
      Participant

      I expect him to be able to read my mind on somethings. And when he does do extra things, I have sometimes never complemented him on it. He is always there no matter what, and takes me completely as I am. I feel that is taking him for granted, and not giving him the proper created he deserves.

    • #95311625
      Karen
      Participant

      I have a hard time thinking that he can change to be more attentive, especially to details. He does a great job providing and taking care of the cars. I am afraid to ask him to do these with me as he has not been interested in any counseling areas. He is more sensitive than I give him credit for and I am grateful for that growth. How can I change this? Spending more time thinking about him and not be disappointed if he does not do so with me. The other day he did the dishes and I did not notice because there was a lot left that I had to do. I need to appreciate what he does do.

    • #95308698
      Sigfried
      Participant

      In numerous ways. I am a easy going person. So you understand that I don’t make a lot of fuss of nearly nothing, This is now killing my marriage after nearly 40 years. Until now I am very satisfied with this study, because it is helping me correcting my ways of dealing with my marriage and wife. I have to admit it is not a easy task, but I have decided to change my attitude and behavior in regard to my wife and marriage, with the help and depending on my Lord and Savior.

    • #95307903
      Sigfried
      Participant

      I think this is a little bit difficult for me, because I have promised several times that I want to change but after some months I started behaving in the same old ways.

    • #95300093
      Carol
      Participant

      That he is going to be here forever. I could stop and enjoy everyday and be thankful for the time spent.

    • #95295880
      Donna
      Participant

      A person can take their spouse for granted when one does not consider how decision effect them and this can change by asking their opinions more.

    • #95290606
      Debbie
      Participant

      I think I take my husband for granted when he works to help support our family. I get real focused on all the house chores and cooking that needs to be done. Additionally I’m also focusing on not having seizures and adjusting my life w a mildTBI. With all I deal with, I neglect to ask my husband how his day at work turned out . Or I don’t praise him for enough for working and thank him

    • #95290276
      Patricia
      Participant

      It’s a terrible thing to think you can finish another person’s sentences.

    • #95289618
      Erica
      Participant

      Show him more appreciation for maintaining spiritual support and home functioning while i work doubles.

    • #95278641
      Jeanie
      Participant

      This lecture has revealed to me that I do take my husband for granted at times. I do appreciate my husband and I often tell him this but our time together has been compromised by busy schedules, family and other activities. Unfortunately, we do tend to give each other the left-overs of our days. as a couple, we plan to implement the idea of scheduling time each week to focus on improving our marriage and on just being with each other.

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      Our Daily Bread
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