In order to keep me humble, vulnerable and able to take risks with others, I need to be in a SoulCare relationship myself. Sherry, one of my closest friends fills this role for me. We maintain a safe relationship with each other, allowing us to be transparent with the intent to move one another closer to Christlikeness.
As we provide SoulCare to others at the same time we might be going through some of our past issues and experiences, this could be exhausting and we need to also be supported to be able to continue. I do that with prayer support from a small cell group that we share openly prayer items. I also feel that the Holy Spirit intervent and get visions and messages via devotions.
We all have blind spots. The capacity for self deceit remains even though we are Christians. Living in this fallen world we need encouragement and sometimes to be challenged to think differently or become aware of some area of our life that needs the Spirits touch. I have three people right now that can do that.
We will never “arrive”; we are all on the journey toward Holiness. We will always have our own pain, our own sin, our own struggles, and we cannot expect to be there for others, and not be filled ourselves. We need that reflection of another loving Christian to come alongside us, and speak into our lives in the same way.
We can’t serve out of an empty tank.
A few good friends fill that role for me.
It is important to receive soulcare while providing soulcare because we can only give what is being offered to us. My small group at my church provides soulcare to me. We are a group of four ladies who meet monthly and we intentionally share about our lives and offer questions, feedback, and prayer to eachother. This has provided a tremendous opportunity for growth in my spiritual life and I often find myself coming away from these soulcare conversations with a deeper awareness of who I am and how I am relating to life in either healthy or unhealthy ways. The extent to which we are aware of our own need of Jesus Christ is the extent to which we are able to offer care to another.
I need to receive SoulCare while providing SoulCare because like every other human, I am a hot mess. I need the voice of reason and love another person who is totally dependent on God, not afraid of me or trying to please me. My friend fills that role for me. She pauses and makes it clear that she needs to pray and seek God’s wisdom before talking to me and asks me questions that sometimes leave me silent.