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  Discuss the commonality of money-related conflicts in marriages. Share any personal experiences or challenges related to financial conflicts, and explore how conflicts, if handled well, can strengthen relationships.

  Posted by info on 01/30/2024 at 14:52

  Leong replied 6 months, 1 week ago 3 Members · 2 Replies

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  Leong

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  08/14/2024 at 06:38

  Firstly, money concerns our sense of security for the future. So it can be a sensitive topic even for a single person. Secondly, money also concerns our plans we have laid out for the family. So it is even more sensitive for a couple and can explode into an argument if they are not careful and honest with one another. Of course, the division of money and assets becomes a thorny issue, if the couple gets to a point of seeking a divorce.

  On the whole, my wife and I have, as a posture, given our money to the Lord, so that helps in avoiding any major conflict in money. When we ponder about giving to a needy person (like a missionary), and if that giving is beyond our initial commitment of 10% for tithes, there is an element of uncertainty that could have caused conflict and unhappiness. So far, we have chosen to wait while we each wait on the Lord for a prompting as to how much to give. When we come back again to discuss this amount, we find surprisingly that we often agree – either exactly on the amount (!!!) or the figure on our minds is almost the same. Thus we have not plunged into any deep conflict on money.

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  Abey Mathew

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  04/30/2024 at 19:27

  My wife loaned money to her cousin and she shared me later when her cousin told me about it. I asked about it to my wife and she said sorry and I agreed to forgive her. I bought items without her knowledge and I apologized about it and moved on. We are now very open about our finances and we are debt free and helathy savings and able to donate money to charity.

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