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Lesson OneChoosing the Future Over the Past3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson TwoChoosing Unselfishness over Selfishness3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson ThreeChoosing to Not Make Assumptions3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson FourChoosing to Communicate3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson FiveTransforming Your Marriage for a Lifetime3 Activities1 Assessment
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Course Wrap-UpCourse Completion1 Activity1 Assessment
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Discussion Questions
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Is there anything that makes it difficult to hope for a better future in your marriage? How do you think you can let go of this?
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63 Replies
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My husband’s anger has hurt our marriage tremendously. Whoever says sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt is a liar. When my husband gets angry, he says very harsh words including profanity. As a result, my self-esteem has been negatively affected. I don’t have a lot of hope for this marriage. I am unhappy but trying to make it work since we have children together.
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Making the consistent effort to be better. Praying for God’s help
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Not really. Thanks God we are learning how to treat each other better and yes, there are conflicts in every marriage, mine is not an exception, but I think that marriage is not about my husband being the source of my joy or vice versa: is God who gives me joy, is God who makes me happy.
I think that as we continue loving each other knowing that our spouses are a gift from God and most importantly, obeying God we will be able to find solutions and ways to make our marriage work.
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There are challenges and frustrations in any relationship. But I’m very optimistic and have not lost hope.
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No, my marriage is faring ok, although it is not a perfect one. There was a season when it was a bit difficult, when one of us was working in unpredictable shifts which change every week. We gave up trying to do things together, since nothing can be planned against this schedule. That was tough for me, as one of my love languages is quality time. But we had had help before through marriage workshops and mentoring, so we were able to navigate that period instead of losing all hope.
#choices
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What tends to be your goal in a conflict with your spouse? Has anything in this lesson changed your perspective on conflict?
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75 Replies
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My goal is usually to defend myself as well as resolve the conflict
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Usually my gold is to fix, resolve the conflict. Although sometimes I just want to be the one who is right, but we found a way to clams ourselves take a time alone, pray, then come together and talk about it, often times there are things I might not agree with my husband’s decisions but part of me being a suitable helper is let him lead.
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Win at all costs! Guessing from this lesson that this isn’t the best approach. (Kidding! Kind of…)
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In the past, the goal tends to be to solve a problem and arrive at strategies to do that, as I believe most men tend to do. But I’ve been made aware that it is more important to hear what each other feels. In addition, this course has reminded me that how we treat each other in a conflict is more important than the content of the disagreement.
#choices
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I typically try to get the other person to understand my perspective. I want him to understand my issue thoroughly and then I listen to his take and understanding of the problem. Resolution is my goal and to restore harmony and peace. I know that I can’t make him change. He has to want to and make the effort. I learned that old habits are able to be changed.
