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Lesson OneTypes of Loss3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson TwoGrieving After Death3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson ThreeLoss of Relationships3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson FourLoss in Covid Times3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson FiveHope for Those Who Have Suffered Loss3 Activities1 Assessment
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Course Wrap-UpCourse Completion1 Activity1 Assessment
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Discussion Questions
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In this lesson, Dr. Welch says, “There is no right way to grieve.” Do you agree? Have you ever seen someone grieve in a way that you thought was “wrong”? Explain.
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I agree. Each individual and their relationships are different. The impact of the loss and separations can way heavily on our emotions, social interactions, and/or our desire to move from day to day.
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I agree with Dr. Welch, there is no right way to grieve, however, I do believe there is a wrong way to grieve. Using mind altering substances, such as drugs and alcohol, to numb oneself, to me is a wrong way of grieving or maybe inadequate is a better word.
I have seen people when grieving, turn to drugs and alcohol to numb the pain or to keep from thinking about their loved one. This is not a true grieving process, but one that prevents true grief from occurring.
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I agree that people are complex and that there isn’t a right way to grieve, but I do think that some can grieve poorly because of sinful patterns in their life.
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I wouldn’t say it was “wrong,” but it was so open to everyone. The person had their heart on their sleeve daily on social media. That was their way to release their sorrow. I get it.
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I wouldn’t say it was “wrong,” but it was so open to everyone. The person had their heart on their sleeve daily on social media. That was their way to release their sorrow. I get it.
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Reflect on the C. S. Lewis quote: “No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.” In what ways do you think grief feels like fear? How does that make coping with grief/loss difficult?
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The fear of how you may be viewed by others by moving on too quickly “in their eyes.” Coping with this fear is like a weight holding you back, when you know the wishes of your love one was to move on with life after their death.
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I have typically thought of grief as sadness, but I can understand that fear might be a component of it since you may feel some loss of control.
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I think grief can feel like fear in the uncertainty of life in general. One day or one moment you’re thinking things
are going one way, and then all of a sudden, it’s flipped right before your
eyes. This can make coping with
grief/loss difficult because in a lot of circumstances, you can be left
questioning everything you learned or ever thought you knew about a given
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This sounds accurate. As I get older I deal with loss of capacity and at times I do wonder what this means for various aspects of my life. As my wife or my family members pass away it also is not only loss, but the realization that we are getting older. I believe this causes fear as well as grief.
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I think that loss can create a fear of even more loss, and the worry of being in a grieving state again. No one wants to keep losing, and no one wants the pain and emotional struggle that comes along with it. I would definitely be afraid of it happening again. The logistics of loss can create fear as well. For instance, if a husband passes away who was his wife’s main caretaker, provider, and financial detail tracker, the wife would then have to figure out how to have all of her physical needs met day-to-day, and learn how to handle the many financial pieces of daily life. God is in control, but these situations can definitely be challenging.