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Lesson OneTypes of Loss3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson TwoGrieving After Death3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson ThreeLoss of Relationships3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson FourLoss in Covid Times3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson FiveHope for Those Who Have Suffered Loss3 Activities1 Assessment
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Course Wrap-UpCourse Completion1 Activity1 Assessment
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Discussion Questions
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In this lesson, Dr. Welch says, “There is no right way to grieve.” Do you agree? Have you ever seen someone grieve in a way that you thought was “wrong”? Explain.
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When my dad passed, I cried out to God for months. When my husband became ill, I still ask God why? When my friend passed, she was in a lot of pain. I was happy for her to go home to Heaven. Everyone grieves in their own way.
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I do agree. I do no think that there is a right way to grieve since we are all different which is how God made us. I have never seen someone grieve in a way that I thought was “wrong” since I don’t think there is really a wrong way to grieve unless they are harming themselves or someone else. Then that could be viewed as a wrong way to grieve.
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Yes we are all unique. I see people still grieving a death 20 years ago and am puzzled by it but it looks like I shouldnt be judging them from this lesson.
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Absolutely agreed! Not one person grieves the same as we all have different connections to different loved ones, grief is different. Ive seen those that dont know God like i believe they should, experience the dark side of grief . I too went through a dark side of grief after losing my husband in 2009. I am grateful to our Lord for allowing me to survive that period and continue to live on to share mt story and my rescue.
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I totally agree there is no right way to grieve. I did feel my friend continued to grieve for a long time for her husband who passed away and now my husband has passed away and I now understand that different people grieve in their own way. God is with me on my journey of grievance.
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Reflect on the C. S. Lewis quote: “No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.” In what ways do you think grief feels like fear? How does that make coping with grief/loss difficult?
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You don’t know what’s next in your life. You fear waking up, you fear losing someone else, you just fear life in general. It makes it difficult because of all the unknown.
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Before answering this question, I felt compelled to reflect on my emotions during what I would consider one of the darkest moments of my life: my mother and sister’s passing. After my mother’s death, my thoughts were, “What happens now?” After my sister’s death, there was conflict, confusion, and shock between family members and friends. As I ponder on my feelings, I’m able to identify that I felt supported by family members after my mother died. However, I feared change because my sister and I had to change living locations by moving in with my aunt. But, when my sister died, I experienced a lot of fears due to the conflict I had with her husband and close friends of my sister’s. These fears caused my coping with grief very difficult due to focusing more on anger and avoidance.
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As I reflect on C S Lewis statement, I think that as a child, death was scary. There is much we do not know about death and dying. We grieve our losses, realizing we will lose more significant people. in the future. In that loss, we face the future without the companionship and support of the departed one. We miss the insight, support, and love that we are accustomed to enjoying Since there are no do- overs, and there are many unknowns ahead, we will have to face it alone. The loss, grief, and fear will be most successfully navigated with the provision of Christ.
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Going through grief is scary and not knowing what the next day will bring or how it will feel. That is the fear. If you lost your partner, you now take on their role and responsibility and that can cause fear. The feeling you have inside of loss is fearful because not feeling like yourself is scary too.
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I think that grief and fear are similar because sometimes we are not able to control them. My son passed away 12 days ago. He was 24-years-old. He had Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, so we knew this day would come some day if Jesus didn’t return first. But even though we had time to prepare, we simply were not ready to say goodbye. The grief comes in waves. I have good moments and I have bad moments. Sometimes the smallest little thing sparks a major bursting into tears. I can’t control it – it just happens. Fear is similar. I am deafly afraid of snakes and rats. I don’t want to be – I just am. As human beings, we want to be in control. And sometimes we simply are not. I think that is what makes coping with grief/loss so difficult.
