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Lesson OneTypes of Loss3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson TwoGrieving After Death3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson ThreeLoss of Relationships3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson FourLoss in Covid Times3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson FiveHope for Those Who Have Suffered Loss3 Activities1 Assessment
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Course Wrap-UpCourse Completion1 Activity1 Assessment
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Discussion Questions
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In this lesson, Dr. Welch says, “There is no right way to grieve.” Do you agree? Have you ever seen someone grieve in a way that you thought was “wrong”? Explain.
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People all grieve differently. The most unhealthy way to grieve is to run away and avoid the pain of embracing the loss. But if we don’t embrace it, neither can we receive His comfort…
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I heard of someone who regularly visits the burial place of their list loved ones. I thought it was not a helpful practice.
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I agree with Dr.welsh that there’s no right way to grieve. Every person is different and their coping skills are different too. I have wondered when people never got over their loss even after years and years after the loss.
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We grieve when we are ready.
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My family has just went through the loss of my dad. June 26, 2023 my brother Jon found my dad who had already passed. There are four siblings in the family and each of us have been at different places in the stages of grief most of the time. My dad was a minister but also an alcoholic. He was very abusive emotionally and physically when we were children. This has placed an added substance to deal with in his death.
One of my brothers would get so angry and it was really hard to handle. He couldn’t seem to release the problems of the abuse so he was mixing it in with the grief. I did at times feel it was headed toward bitterness which is scary for me as I have seen what bitterness can do to an individual. I also felt like I was being attacked by my brother in his anger.
How I dealt with this is realizing that there are different stages of grief and my brother kept bouncing back to anger so I started directing our conversations in such a way so that he could work through the anger but move on from there to another stage and eventually acceptance and peace of the situaction.
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Reflect on the C. S. Lewis quote: “No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.” In what ways do you think grief feels like fear? How does that make coping with grief/loss difficult?
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Like fear you are entering new a new and different experience , a new new and different experience sometimes with some one who had made that journey with you before. you are making that journey alone. that in itself is different.
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Grief is like fear because of the emotions brought forth by grief. Like fear, grief generates feelings of aloneness, helplessness, desire to run away with no way of escape, recalls of would, could, should, and scrambled thoughts. In a moment of fear there is a tendency to grab the nearest thing to you and squeeze or hold it tight. Grief, like fear, will cause one to question themselves asking how they contributed to the situation and can things go back to the way they were. This makes coping with grief/loss difficult because it’s hard to hold onto what is no longer physically present.
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When my dad was dying, I was very afraid of losing my best friend. I just recently lost a good friend of mine. My brother in law’s are ill. My husband is ill. I am his caretaker. Sometimes I want to cry out, “God are You there? Please have mercy on us. Where have You been?” I am a Hospice Counselor. It doesn’t get easier. People think that it does, but it doesn’t. I still am anxious and have fear. Fear of not being able to talk with my best friend, my dad. Fear of losing my husband someday.” I know God is there. I know God hears me. But sometimes I wonder where He is.
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Because there is this level of uncertainty that both of those emotions have. You don’t know what is going to happen next which would make grief feel a bit like fear. I adds another level to cope with when you are trying to cope with grief/loss before you can actually cope with or deal with the grief/loss that you are experiencing.
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I think the loss of control is frightening. What I thought was secure is vulnerable in uncontrollable ways. that is scary.
