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  Is there anything that makes it difficult to hope for a better future in your marriage? How do you think you can let go of this?

  Kofi Asare-Bawuah replied 3 weeks, 1 day ago 60 Members · 62 Replies

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  Farai Round

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  02/09/2023 at 10:26

  My sister’s wife. She always gives her bad advice. I openly talk about things I don’t like, and we view it in light of the word of God.

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  Bethany Driggs Driggs

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  12/26/2022 at 07:58

  I don’t trust that my husband will do what he says he’s going to do….so I just do everything myself so I won’t be disappointed. He’s much older than I am so I try to give him leeway, but when I’m stressed to the max and I have a mountain of housework to do or shoveling snow or unloading groceries from the car with no help it’s very frustrating.

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  Scott Byrd

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  12/24/2022 at 12:24

  A constant feeling that I will always play second fiddle to my wife’s family. I definitely could stand to make an attitude change about my in-laws. A more loving approach would almost certainly help.

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  T Tanner

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  12/19/2022 at 16:13

  By faith I do not believe there is anything that makes it difficult to “hope” for anything especially a better future in my marriage. By faith the “elders obtained a good report.” (Hebrews 11:1-2) By faith, trusting in God, we can meet and overcome the challenges that life presents. The dis-eases that crop up are to help us to make the effort to become one, like minded. Taking the time to listen to one another and together cast our cares upon the Lord. The problem, situation whether it is health concerns, infidelity, etc., it can be healed and forgiven by trusting and believing “…is there anything too hard for God?”

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  Wayne Maki

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  12/04/2022 at 22:32

  I have tried and tried to get her to change. “If only she would [do x, y, or z, our marriage would be better.”
  I am reasonably content with many things about our marriage, so my tendency now is to “settle” and say “oh well- it’s never going to be great, but it will be ok”
  This has led to severe problems with “oh if only” pining about how things would be different and better with other women from my past.
  I can let go of this through the power of the Holy Spirit and through focusing on how I show up in the marriage versus how she needs to improve.

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  What tends to be your goal in a conflict with your spouse? Has anything in this lesson changed your perspective on conflict?

  Kofi Asare-Bawuah replied 3 weeks, 1 day ago 74 Members · 75 Replies

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  Alberto

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  04/13/2023 at 17:00

  My goal normally is to end the discussion the soonest possible and yes I did see some things here that I want to try.

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  Margaret Robitaille

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  04/12/2023 at 13:32

  My goal tends to center around being heard and/or understood. Many times during any conflict, I feel that my spouse hears things I do not say or do not intend to say, or I feel railroaded and that my views/opinions don’t matter as much as theirs do.

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  Geri Jenkins

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  04/10/2023 at 19:01

  I try very hard to understand the other person’s position, but I’m a person that doesn’t live in the past.

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  Letitia La fleur

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  04/04/2023 at 16:43

  When a conflict occurs I desperately need to have the problem resolved without bitterness. I am unable to rest if it is not resolved.
  Listening to the process is food for thought.

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  Krystan Turner

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  03/23/2023 at 14:52

  Trying to get to the root cause of the issue quickly. Unpacking the argument and looking at the other person’s perspective. Seeing the argument from a biblical lens and not from fleshly eyes. Knowing that there is a right was to argue in a healthy way where the devil won’t win. Making sure we both are forgiving and honest and humble with one another.

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