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  Is there anything that makes it difficult to hope for a better future in your marriage? How do you think you can let go of this?

  Kofi Asare-Bawuah replied 3 weeks, 1 day ago 60 Members · 62 Replies

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  Brent Meyer

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  08/20/2022 at 06:44

  The fact that my wife said the switch is broken and she cant come back from it. She said the only hope we have is to coexist unitl the kids leave, then divorce. I have spent 15 years trying to apease her to make her happy, that I have lost myself in the process. She exudes no hope.

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  Brent Meyer

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  08/20/2022 at 06:42

  We have extreme bitterness, guilt, shame, resentment issues and unresolved hurt. It is completely disfunctional for at least 15 years. I get blamed for everything that does not go her way. Seek forgiveness and trust God to work in both of us

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  Raquel Lugo

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  08/18/2022 at 13:06

  Unfaithfulness has been the biggest issue in our marriage. My husband puts his exwife, kids, pornography, and work first before anything including God.
  At the beggining, I would take the lashing and insults quietly. Then, I started lashing back and I have become bitter. I am working on forgiveness but, this has been painful and hard.

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  Joyce Anderson

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  06/27/2022 at 15:10

  Yes, after many years of marriage it seems that I am the only one who wants change or even to have a conversation about our marriage. I think I’ve let go of the feelings of despair. Maybe the situation will not change but my outlook has greatly improved.

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  Randolph Valme

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  06/05/2022 at 09:17

  Yes, reacting to constant nagging, put downs and sarcasm.
  The way I react is wrong because I respond with anger.
  I believe things can change if I continue to behave in a loving manner.

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  What tends to be your goal in a conflict with your spouse? Has anything in this lesson changed your perspective on conflict?

  Kofi Asare-Bawuah replied 3 weeks, 1 day ago 74 Members · 75 Replies

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  Rafael Infante

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  03/11/2023 at 21:11

  In a conflict I will always reassure her that she is the love of my life and the greatest love God has for me through her. There’s not much that we fight about. But remembering that always confirms us together.

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  Bob Ehle

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  03/05/2023 at 18:31

  Normally I try to think I’m right, and look to show that. It’s important, though, to focus on the process and the communication.

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  Randall Burton

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  02/27/2023 at 13:33

  Resolution or a plan in short an agreement that is is harmony.
  As looking the process the most important things are lost like being loving in process when I am so focused on the answer. The means that are important have been forgotten to get to resolution.

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  Faith Odumade

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  02/27/2023 at 11:19

  What tends to be my goal in a conflict with my spouse is trying to make him see reason to what I am saying or what happened but now with this lesson, I have learnt that the most important thing in any conflict is to think more on how you treat each other than whatever is causing the problem or trying to think how you to win the battle. Relying on God for help.

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  Timothy K.

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  02/15/2023 at 10:01

  I need to focus on my wife, rather than trying to win battles, when there are the inevitable hurdles, with her. I’m told in the New Testament to love my wife like Jesus loved the Church. Working toward solutions, with love in mind, rather than trying to win battles will help me as I focus on this perspective in conflict with her. I like this perspective & hope I choose to put this viewpoint into practice.

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