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  Is there anything that makes it difficult to hope for a better future in your marriage? How do you think you can let go of this?

  Kofi Asare-Bawuah replied 3 weeks, 1 day ago 60 Members · 62 Replies

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  Colin Meads

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  06/04/2022 at 10:17

  We’re in a season where my wife is the primary care giver to her parents who live in their own bungalow with an unmarried daughter who is the “bread-winner”. My in laws are in their mid-90s, physically frail and one of them is mentally frail too. They have two live in helpers who need training and supervision continually. In this season our marriage takes second place to my in laws’ needs. May the Lord help us to adapt together in our marriage so that this season is one we can appreciate positively, knowing it’s unlikely to last more than 5-8 years. I need to let go of a picture of marriage which doesn’t adapt to the current season.

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  Cory Kettleman

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  04/25/2022 at 11:57

  Not taking the time to actually work on my marriage. Busy schedules and children take away a lot of time and by the end of the day I don’t have the energy or want to spend time talking. Identifying the problem and with prayer, find the time to actually talk and spend quality time with my wife.

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  Bryan Miller

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  04/22/2022 at 15:22

  I found that being open and honest prior to marriage is the key to a better marriage. Keeping one’s baggage hidden can cause hardships down the line. Yes, current issues may come up, but if your marriage is based on Biblical concepts it should be easy to get through those conflicts with the help of Jesus.

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  Craig Elliott

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  04/18/2022 at 21:25

  Past hurts
  Emotional damage
  Past failure
  Past regrets
  Unforgiveness

  Let it go by believing God’s words over my feelings. The just shall live by his faith, not feelings. Although my past is damaged, my future is bright because I am taking the necessary steps to renew my mind and view my marriage the way God intends.

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  Kashier Elliott

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  04/18/2022 at 21:18

  I love my husband and I pray and hope our marriage can overcome all negative obstacles. I pray I can control my tongue, gain self control, and always respect my husband.

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  What tends to be your goal in a conflict with your spouse? Has anything in this lesson changed your perspective on conflict?

  Kofi Asare-Bawuah replied 3 weeks, 1 day ago 74 Members · 75 Replies

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  Jeff D

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  12/29/2022 at 02:07

  Husband: The thing that has changed in my perspective is the way that you perceive me in the conflict or in hell I’m reacting to the conflict in my life and in years..

  Wife: I tend to have a goal of being heard whenever in conflict. The thing that has changed my perspective on conflict based on this exercise is the alternative view from my spouse that helps me to see myself during the conflict. Hopefully I will be able to use his examples as a way to work through any emotions or learned behaviors that can keep me from pursuing a resolution.

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  Bethany Driggs Driggs

  Member

  12/26/2022 at 08:03

  It depends what the conflict is……if I think I’m right, then I’ll try to argue it out…..but most times I just shut down…….

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  Scott Byrd

  Member

  12/24/2022 at 12:22

  I am not sure that I have an overt goal during conflict, but I do know that I tend to react poorly when I don’t feel appreciated or respected. This always results in some level of conflict where I make my wife feel bad by the way I respond. Now I see I can change everything by changing how I respond. Instead of lashing out with hurt feelings, I can explain my feelings while showing forgiveness and kindness.

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  Daniel michael

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  12/23/2022 at 14:18

  To try for better understanding of where she comes from and try to make change her way the way she thinks about her self.

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  T Tanner

  Member

  12/19/2022 at 17:44

  My goal in a conflict with my spouse is to arrive at win-win, a resolution wherein we have both heard each other’s perspective. Listening to each other’s words, gestures, and intonations to ensure we are fully listening. Focusing on a solution that is better for our marriage than our individual desires. “A three-fold chord is not easily broken.” Seeking the opportunity be better at the end of our conflict than we were before the conflict arose.
  Affirmation of our approach to conflict resolution and to understand the plans that God has for us

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