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Lesson OneChoosing the Future Over the Past3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson TwoChoosing Unselfishness over Selfishness3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson ThreeChoosing to Not Make Assumptions3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson FourChoosing to Communicate3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson FiveTransforming Your Marriage for a Lifetime3 Activities1 Assessment
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Course Wrap-UpCourse Completion1 Activity1 Assessment
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Discussion Questions
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Is there anything that makes it difficult to hope for a better future in your marriage? How do you think you can let go of this?
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It is hard to trust and forgive. But I do have hope for our future.
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Nothing makes it difficult for me to have that hope now or in the future.
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I let go the past and reflect on things that happened anchoring on Micah 6:8 To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God. I can only turst things happened for a reason that God allows. However, It takes two to tango and cannot work on improving it if the other party is not willing to.
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I am very fortunate that I have a good marriage, and my husband is actually my best friend. I will continue to try and hold my tongue and not speak or say anything while I am upset or in a disagreement.
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I need to forgive the leave the past, trust that he will change.
I cannot change the past, but we can work together for the days & years aheads.
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What tends to be your goal in a conflict with your spouse? Has anything in this lesson changed your perspective on conflict?
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I try to solve the problem. I get frustrated that she doesn’t just follow my wise guidance. Often I will put her down by saying things like “I don’t understand why you can’t just figure this out”
This lesson has me thinking that all this approach accomplishes is her feeling judged a failure. I am not being loving. I need to be loving. -
I avoid conflict as much as possible because it always ends up as me being the one to blame for everything. I am the one who needs to change…always. It tends to be whos will can be impossed on the other. We need to treat the other in love rather than focus on the conflict.
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Most of the time is to win the conflict and show I ‘m right and he’s not. Other times, it us retaliation or defensiveness. My husband is very vindictive.
In this lesson I have learned tat is not about winning but how we treat each other. Unfortunately, for us it has been really poor. God help us understand gentleness, humbleness, compassion and hope! -
1 August 2022 I, now that I am getting OLDER ( and HOPEFULLY Wiser); want to strive to work more towards a Mutually accepted resolution of any Conflict I might have with my spouse. It is at least cognitively recognized by me that WE each have Our own Individual needs,wants,desires to be true to ;although We should strive to work together to make a situation feasible for the Best structure of both of us ( The Sum SHOULD be Greater than the 2 parts separate.). In answering the question, ” Has anything in this lesson changed your perspective on conflict”–I right now can identify with the quoted words of Jeremiah 29:11 ” I know that the plans I have for you,…plans to prosper you and to not harm you…..” I dont know however IF this would be true IF affronted after 25-30 years of Marriage testimony.
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I am not actively married at this point in my life.The situation however has been observed by me ,via observing interactions of my parents and their siblings;that their marriages were pretty much that of ‘My Way,or the Highway’. Part of their behaviors ( I believe) came from a Mixture of factors,e.g. How raised as a Immigrant family during most recently the GREAT Depression Era; as well as carry over from their Grandparents whom emigrated from the OLD Country-be it Germany;Italy;France,etc.
It is my identification with what Dr. Welch stated;approximately Half-way through His video ; that makes me take notice as to How one in ANY form of Communication ,should concentrate MORE on how a Person ‘Feels’ in the Relationship;than what the actual solid event is.