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Lesson OneIntroduction to SoulCare: Getting Started on the Journey3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson TwoThe First Task in Learning to Provide SoulCare: Knowing What You're After and What It Takes to Get There3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson ThreeA Personal Search: Beginning with an Inside Look3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson FourThe Concept of Ruling Passions: What Energy Carries You into the Life of Another3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson FiveBrokenness: The Key to Releasing the Power of SoulCare3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson SixThe Good and the Bad in the Human Soul: Self-Need vs. Soul-Thirst3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson SevenEntering the Battle for Another's Soul: The First Step3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson EightWisdom: A Roadmap for Entering the Soul Without Getting Lost3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson NineGetting into the Battle: Moving Below the Waterline from the Presenting Problem to the Story of the Soul3 Activities1 Assessment
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Lesson TenAgents of Growth: What SoulCare Can Do in Our Lives3 Activities1 Assessment
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Course Wrap-UpCourse Completion1 Activity1 Assessment
Participants 600
Discussion Questions
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Dr. Crabb talks about our tendency to keep relationships shallow using the image of “not turning our chairs toward one another.” Why is it so difficult for us to “turn our chairs”? In other words, why are we reluctant to let anyone really know us? As you think about your answer, consider these possible reasons: Don’t have time. Don’t want to get involved. Don’t care. Feel inadequate and awkward. Don’t know how to form deeper relationships. Not culturally acceptable. Explain several possible reasons (using your own or from the list above) and then give an example from your experience that demonstrates which reason most often keeps you from turning your chair towards others.
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Common Reasons:
– Daily Demanding nature of Life : most of us may describe our lives often as busy, stressful, demanding, feelings of burn out etc. Turning your chair takes time and energy.
– Shame / Hurt / Self protection : we all have areas of shame or pain that we carry around constantly. It often feels safer to stay hidden, so as to “guarantee” distance from that.These are also two top reasons for me personally that I avoid chair turning.
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In my experience people haven’t been discipled or taught that they should share their interior lives with someone. If by some chance you have had a life-giving conversation with someone and they imparted a truth or you yourself imparted a truth and you recognized that connection, well those connections are fleeting and infrequent even with people we are with on a frequent basis. Conversing at this level of intimacy takes time and interest, curiosity and most people are more interested in their own issues and interior world so that they can not connect deeply with anyone else.
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I’m not able to open up about my past, I look to Jesus to validate me, I don’t have a lot of extra time, I’m trying to keep up with fitness, work and personal life, I feel like I’m being led by God to do what I do, make the choices I make.
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For me to not turn my chair towards someone would be my own shame and embarrassment for someone to see and know the real me. I would have to be really comfortable and trust the person I’m sharing my life problems with and visa versa. The person sharing with me would have to feel comfortable and safe to share their struggles with me. The gospel is what banishes our shame and embarrassment and frees us to be humble and open with one another.
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For me, it depends on the situation. If it is a trusted person or group it is easy to share. However, if it is with an individual I do not know then I can be reluctant. Most of that reluctance stems from others sharing comments that were shared in confidence.